Never think you can’t do something perfect. It may be your parent, boss, lover or friend telling you that are not perfect (which is probably true) but you can create something perfect. Non-Fiction life is not perfect. Fiction life can be created to be perfect. Create something like – your best fiction life and live it. If…
Good performers in any respective field are so good they do not need to tell you they are good. Good things happen when good performers are around.
Good musicians are so good they do not need to tell people they are good musicians. People will hear it with their own ears.
Good writers are so good they do not need to tell everyone they are good writers. People will read their work with their own eyes and feel the words in their heart.
Good sales people are so good they do not need to tell you they are good. People will trust them and never feel like they are being sold.
Good XYZ people are so good they do not need to tell you they are good. You get my point…
Most people who are at the top of their game – do not need to tell you they are the top ones in their trade. They show you. The musician, Prince – He will show you he can sing better, play guitar better and dance better than you or anyone else. He does not need to tell you he is better. He is not good, he is great.
Do you see Prince taking selfies of himself boasting about his guitar skills? No. He shows you…
Listen closely to people in your work circle OR social media feed – many people will talk about themselves and use words and stories to makes themselves appear smarter and better than everyone else. They want to dominate you so they can look good, but are they really that good?
Your next job interview – ask the candidate to explain when they witnessed someone else be good in their field. What was it they did? Why did they think it was good? No wrong answer with this question. You will learn what the candidate values and what they see as good. Their description of good is most likely who they are OR who they aspire to be.
Be good for yourself today. Cheers.
A duck in water floats in a calm and peaceful manner. The duck looks like there is little effort involved to glide across the pond, but a duck in water is actually working his a@# off underneath the water. His feet are paddling like mad to keep moving.
Think of all the times in your day when life introduces curve balls. Friends die, family members disappoint, people quit, technology fails and coffee spills. These are curve balls you do not expect. These are the times you need to paddle like hell to glide through life.
When we watch people who are good at something we do not see or we forget the countless hours they spent struggling. The 10,000 hour rule – a la Malcom Gladwell. If we do see them struggle, we are quick to judge and label them a failure. Keep paddling like a duck. Paddle, paddle and paddle more but do not complain about your paddles. Everyone is paddling.
You will always be working on something to make it look perfect. Do not wait for perfection but know when to release your final product. Release your product too late and you miss your chance and release your product too soon and you miss your chance. Lose/lose. Timing is almost everything.
Almost all appearances can be like a final product, such as…
Your next podcast appearance – Speak like someone will listen to your words.
Your next meeting with a client – Make your conversation worth remembering.
Your time spent with loved ones – Be in the moment with them.
Your guitar solo – People want to hear your chords and songs. Make music for people’s ears.
Your next athletic event – Your opponent is expecting your final product. Be in the moment.
Your next document you send – Your recipient wants your final product. Always.
Your next almost anything…
Everyday – you are the duck in water. Your feet need to move but on the outside you need to appear as calm as a Hindu cow.
My 3 words for 2014 are my 3 words. Start your words today. For the long time HR Hound reader you have heard me talk about the 3 words. High five to Chris Brogan. I stole the idea from him.
Enough ramble and on with my 3 words for 2014.
Organize- Organize the various parts and projects I have going on at work and home. Many of my projects are connected and related and by organizing them I can connect the dots and see how they make the picture whole. At work, performance management, social collaboration and compensation each touch one another. I need to organize all three and connect the dots in terms of philosophy, strategy and technology. At home, I need to take out the cat litter more often and also put up a fence so my dogs don’t escape and can do their business in my yard. All involve cleaning up waste and getting rid of bad smell. I need more organization around waste management at home.
Simple- People, relationships, work, beliefs. Keep them simple. If a thought is in my head, then I will share it. Thoughts can be ideas and ideas can turn into opportunities and real work. Keep things simple. No need to re-create the wheel or invent something and hang out with people who get this. Most ideas are discovered, then put out on the table at the right time and place. That’s how innovation happens. I need to take more of a physics approach to learn the natural and simple aspects of life and universe.
Focus–Focus on focus. Meditation, breathing, and believing. I have almost made meditation a daily part of my life. I need to get better and more focused at my meditation. iPhones and technology can kill focus and the moment. I will focus on focus and when I am in the moment of a task, that will be the task. No other thoughts or checking of other technology. If I am on social media with my phone, then I am on social. If I am with my family, then I am with my family. My time is now and it is my time that I share with other humans when I am around them. More sharing and interacting.
Organize. Simple. Focus. Those are my 3 words. What are yours?
PS–Last year, Steve Browne said his were, “Encourage. Be Intentional.” and Kristi Schwartz, did you ever do your 3 words?
I am starting to get asked by a few of you to write articles and share thoughts about upcoming trends and predictions on recruiting, culture, technology, or whatever. Some of you and/or other people have asked me to think about a writing schedule to help keep things on track. Well, first, I can’t do that. In my own way, I need to focus on the ball in front of us. I can’t and won’t try to look into the past or future. The ball in front of us, is what I can see.
I can see that business goes f$#ing fast. I can see that some people in our space are more about fame, than competence or progress. I can see that it takes work to make a company work. I can see that work will always be a part of my life. The day will not come where I can draw the line in the sand and say, “I’m done”. My work will always continue, so I must find something I can enjoy.
Controls and measures to control my life will make me miserable. I have learned that about myself. I am fortunate to find work where I can explore new things and learn how to think more on my own two feet. But, I still have to do a couple mundane tasks every now and then…It’s these mundane tasks that make me recognize what I enjoy and do not enjoy about my work. I for one, hate too much order and predictable answers. I prefer unknown and mysterious processes.
I am finding that compensation practices are orderly and predicable. You can train a good dog do to them, but finding a willing dog is tough. Focusing on that ball in front of us is not orderly or predictable. The ball in front of us is usually disguised by feedback you can’t see or hear, secret meetings you underestimate, and people who undermine your every move. The ball in front of you is real and unpredictable.
Focus on finding the ball in front of you. Forget about the ball behind you or ahead of you.
When I wake up in the morning, one of the first things I do is check my phone. I bet you do too, so shut it. Even funnier, if you are reading this first thing in the morning. This behavior is reactive. We check our mobile device and immediately react to what it tells us. We react to emails, texts, tweets, Facebook updates, LinkedIn messages, etc. This creates a feeling as if a bear is chasing us, first thing in the morning.
The minute we realize we have action to react to from our mobile device, we don’t think. We react. Hurry…Hurry…respond, email, tweet, respond to more, tweet, text…hurry. The bear is chasing you. Run, baby run. But where are you running to?
Staying close to your business to better understand how it makes money should be one of your primary objectives. Regardless of your job title, this should be your focus. Know at least this much and you will know how to do a good job. People often run into problems because they spend most of their day trying…