Never think you can’t do something perfect. It may be your parent, boss, lover or friend telling you that are not perfect (which is probably true) but you can create something perfect. Non-Fiction life is not perfect. Fiction life can be created to be perfect. Create something like – your best fiction life and live it. If…
In recruiting you are always making decisions about someone: is there current work a good place; is the school they graduated from reputable; do they have skills; do they present themselves favorable; will they do a good job if you hire them… We don’t normally spell it out, but each decision is a shot at understanding ourselves…
Working in a place where you can say what you want requires strong muscles of tolerance. You need to tolerate the DB (Delta Bravo) who is always there to say something about your job or beliefs. They are wired differently you. Tolerate them.
There are two ways to behave when you work in a place where you can say what you want.
1) You can strive for personal domination over everyone. Say stuff like, “I’m great at sales and you are not” OR “I can code better than you” OR “I am holier than you”. In other words, I am the dominant one and I win.
2) You can strive for life is great with everyone. Say stuff like, “We are great at sales and making a difference with our product or service” OR “We just made someone’s life better today because of the product we created” OR “Life is great, let’s make history together”. In other words, we are great and going to make an impact in the world.
Both are options and both will attract people based on your words. Your vibe attracts your tribe. Isn’t that talent attraction?
Option #1 will make you think you are good, but you will be continually disappointed that not everyone is as good as you.
Option #2 will make you wonder about the mark you will leave in our world or your organization when you are gone.
There is no competition with anyone when you use words that align with life is great. Your competition is how much impact you will make as a team when you are gone or the team disbands.
Using derogatory words will attract people who also use derogatory words. You can say what you want and you will get what you want…
AND I can say what I want because life is great.
Too much work can become toxic to the mind, body and soul. Not enough work can create boredom and lack of purpose in one’s life. A detox from the thoughts and ideas about your work can bring you a fresh perspective. Similar a detox from boredom and purposelessness can bring confidence and new meaning to one’s life. That’s what my experience tells me.
A short detox (quiet time at night) is usually enough. I do not view typing this as a detox. I oddly enjoy writing to you. This is often my detox.
A detox from work involves not looking at a customer or some type of judgmental audience. A detox from work is where you play, play and play. The more you play, the more you stay in your game. Biking, running, reading, meditating, walking, outside yard work…Find ways to play. Do it with people who know how to play too.
When work becomes more important than family/friends. Change quickly. You are starting a downward spiral. It is your job to change. Not any other person’s job. Not your boss, your HR departments, etc. Your job is to balance your life. Do what matters to you. If you need a detox from work, take it. If you can’t think good about your work, then don’t think too much.
I sometimes get asked about how to make work more balanced. People think a policy about work/life balance can fix their out of balance issues. It can’t.
Work/life balance the HR Hound way. You need balance. Look in the mirror. Figure it out. That is your job to balance your life, not a policy.